By Monique Craine... qualified and accredited hypnotherapist
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD/ADD), Autism Spectrum Disorder/Asperger’s Syndrome, Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD)/Dyspraxia, Dyslexia, Dyscalculia, Tourette’s Syndrome... and more
Why We All Need To Learn To Relax
Being in a pretty much perpetually stressed state meant that I struggled to access my exectutive functioning. I would respond to most new stimuli with a fight or flight response and it felt as though the pressure would eventually cause me to collapse! I was 40 before I actually learned how to relax and I have certainly never looked back!
Why Did I Learn To Relax
I tried everything from seeing the GP and taking medication, to doing meditation and Yoga but nothing seemed to be able to stop me from getting distracted by stressful thoughts, often to the point where I’d forget I was even meant to be relaxing. So for me it was essential that I learn how to relax. I eventually had to study Hypnotherapy in order to learn the theory behind relaxation. I then adapted what I had learned to suit my neuro-diverse nature and started putting the theory into practice.
Fortunately for me one of my first modules on the hypnotherapy course was on the role of relaxation. Through this I was able to confirm what I already believed. That it was impossible to be stressed and relaxed at the same time, that just 5 minutes of targeted relaxation each day could lead to improved sleep, it could reduce muscular and/or chronic pain, could even help ND people like me access our executive functioning easier in order to make better thought through decisions. Best of all for those who know what their triggers are – it could even be used to prevent melt-downs.
Was Relaxation Easy To Learn?
I knew exactly how to use the very effective Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) technique commonly used in hypnotherapy and as I practiced on my hypnotherapy test subjects I could see that they all seemed to be reaching a very deep state of relaxation, there were changes in the breathing pattern, their skin colour and other signs I could see which were clear indications of deep relaxation. All the test subjects claimed to benefit immensely from the PMR exercise on its own, but I still couldn’t master performing it on myself at home.
Relaxation Of Any Sort Is Beneficial
Was It Just Me?
They all claimed to really LOVE the exercise, claiming they had been in less pain, had got better night’s sleep, had been in a better mental state to make decisions and so on. The problem here is that my time is not cheap. My coaching sessions cost £45 per session and I like my clients to set targets for what they will achieve by the next session so I know they are stepping onto the right path for them and not procrastinating. So although it was a great compliment that every single client wanted to do my relaxation class two or three times to help them gain the skills to relax, it soon occurred to me that they were going to hit the same problem as me. It is quite common for my clients to present with poor working memory and problems focussing their thoughts so I refused to run multiple relaxation sessions for them as their time would be better identifying the right path for them. In the meantime I would work out how to provide them with the lesson at a reduced rate. The truth is that my clients all needed to be able to use relaxation techniques as a coping mechanism because the benefits relaxation could give them, could be the key to being able to unlock their true potential, so the truth is that it is an essential skill.
Finding A Cheaper Alternative
I firstly used a Dictaphone, but the sound quality was appalling, even I couldn’t relax to that. I then tried using some software on my computer, but again the sound quality really wasn’t any better. Although my clients were telling me they would use it no matter what it was like, I still had standards, and I knew that if I couldn’t relax to it, then they would probably struggle too.
In the end I hired a recording studio that professionally edited and produced the CD for me. They designed the Artwork for the CD and even put me in touch with a company who could professionally duplicate the CD so that it is of professional quality. Of course that worked out much more expensive than buying a stack of CDs and burning copies, but I wanted my CD to be relaxing in every way and having used burned CDs before I know how poor the quality becomes after constant use. I wanted my clients to be able to use the CD until they had taught themselves how to use the technique unaided.
Once I had the CD
I posted about my having made the CD on my facebook profile as I had really enjoyed doing the recording session. A couple of people from my ‘friends’ list asked if they could buy a copy. I was a bit concerned at first as I felt they would only be getting half the package, after all the CD was designed for my clients who would have been told all about the impact relaxation can have on the human body, and how it can be used to combat stress and anxiety. My clients would have gained a really good understanding of what the point of the exercise was so that they could discover all the benefits for themselves and learned how to use affirmations and Future You techniques for use with future CD sessions, so I was concerned that the ones who just bought the CD would not benefit as much as my clients did... But I was wrong!
Truth is I didn’t expect the fantastic feedback I received from those who had never taken the relaxation session with me. It is because of the excellent feedback that I’ve had from these clients that I have put the CD up for sale on my website. So if any of you are like me, and just cannot switch your minds off or focus on one thought long enough to de-stress your entire body then this might well be the CD for you.
I do not advise those of you with strong ADHD qualities to purchase it as although you could well find it beneficial there are gaps in the guidance where I allow clients minds to wonder and that is usually problematic in itself for those with severe ADHD. I am working on a new CD, specifically designed for adults with ADHD but still have a few more test subjects to try it out on before I am ready to take it to the recording studio.
If you would like to know more about the CD
To book an individual telephone or Skype relaxation coaching session to go with the CD contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org